Tips to Move On
If you are anything like me, you have had your heartbroken a time or two or maybe a lot. A heartbreak is not only emotionally painful but even physically painful. I know you have felt sick to your stomach when going through a breakup. Well I know I do. I lose my appetite, I do not want to talk to anyone, my heart really hurts. Women’s Health Mag says that, when you are in love there are chemicals flooding your body called dopamine and oxytocin. When you are experiencing a heartbreak your body pumps out cortisol and other stress hormones which can be very dangerous. Stress does a lot on a body and so does a heartbreak.
Because heartbreak and stress stick on you mentally and physically I would not suggest you stay in that state too long. Yes, easier said than done but you have to think about you and your well being. You deserve to be happy. Most people believe that happiness comes from people but we should never rely on people to provide your happiness. Your happiness, my happiness should come from within. My old pastor said, “Happiness comes from what is happening.” So maybe what it happening to you is horrible, hard to be happy in that situation but when things are on the up and up your happiness is up. But believe me, I know people can play a huge role on your emotional state, we just have to quit giving people so much power over us.
I was a little nervous how quickly I got over my ex husband. I was sad for the marriage that ended and sad that it ended the way it did that that it didn’t turn out the way I had hoped it would be. But I thought about it, I had some realizations about who I was and what I wanted to be and I knew if I stayed in a dark place, a heartbroken type of place I would be doing a disservice to myself and I wouldn’t be able to give God all the glory. I knew I had to pick myself up and keep moving forward. I realized there were three ways to how I made sure to end my heartbreak early. Talk about praying for a speedy recovery- I was like I have to keep moving, I have to keep going.
Just in case you are going through a breakup in any form- relationships, fired from a job, kicked out of school whatever it may be, these three tips may just help you out.
3 Tips To Move On:
Tip 1- Realize how precious and short time is. When you realize time does not stop for anybody you will see that you cannot just stop, you cannot sit and wait. I was like the clock is ticking in a direction where there are no rewinds or pauses. Don’t blink, you might just miss something. Either I could sit and wallow and say, “woe is me” or I can get up and keep pressing. I said to myself, “Aint nobody got time for that!”
Tip 2- Realize your worth, your potential, your value. When I saw how incredible of a wife I was to a man who could care less, I knew that what I have to offer someone is going to cherish that and more. I couldn’t waste my time sulking, I was like I am going to work on me and be even better when that amazing man comes and knows what he has. I began to feel myself like the song says. I was like, I look good, I am educated, I have a good career, I am doing big things… I was like well alright…. I am in love with myself lol.
Tip 3- Find that thing, other than a person that makes you happy. I get so excited about my blog and my social media presence, this gives me so much happiness. This is not given to me, it is something that I am doing and that brings me so much joy. Through out the day I shout, I am so happy. That is happiness while being single, doing the things that I love. When you find that thing it is going to be amazing. I focus a lot of my time doing this and I am thrilled to do so. Other things I do is have dance parties at home and Kevin demonstrates how I truly feel on the inside.
So when I think about the heartbreak, I realize it the relationship or job or whatever was just not for me and I say,
and then I keep it moving! This is the perfect opportunity to prove to yourself your worth! Do not do anything out of spite or revenge, if you do you have given them power over you!
Wipe the tears, put on some lipstick and live your life for YOU!
What are some other tips to help our sisters and brothers out? What would you suggest?
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Peace and Blessings,